WHO IS AFRAID OF FALLING? H.Barker, Ph. D. RN

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Life is busy.  We rush from place to place.  Running to catch buses, taxis or trains.  There is a rush of exhilaration as I beat the train to the platform.  The good old days.  I was running late for work, but this train saved me from being tardy.  Memories of yesteryear are sweet, as I now find myself holding on to the subway rails and gingerly descending.  It is cruelty on days when these stairs are wet and slippery with ice or snow.   Youthful thoughts vanish.  I am suddenly turned into a frightened limpet, clinging tightly to my steel support.  Trusting it to bear my weight, and help me land safely.  I slide ungracefully down the last few steps and rush to the turnstile, but the train is leaving.

I know my house.  I can walk through it blind folded.  No need for a bathroom or kitchen light.   In the darkness, the furniture is familiar.  I safely walk around my electronic gadgets charging on the floor, and even take a quick peek through the window. Not this night.  I jumped out of bed rushing to the bathroom.  The room begins to spin. My back hits the bed, the wetness sliding down my legs.  What happened here?  Who slammed me in the head?  I pushed up on my elbows, but there is a universe out there floating before my eyes.  My head is in orbit.  Gravity is lost.  My senses say to lie here until everything settles down.

I do not like snow.  Sure, it is soft, warm, white and pretty when it is falling.  Give it a few days, and you are “Harry on Ice,” slipping and sliding all over the place.  Not funny anymore.   I am striding through the snow on this cold January day, when suddenly my feet are in the air and I am crashing to the pavement.  My handbag, glasses, umbrella go flying. My ears are ringing. Stars are blinking before my eyes.  I tried getting up, but my feet are useless.   I opened my eyes.  People are walking around me.  Not even looking at me.  One stranger came and helped me up.

According to the National Council on Aging, https://www.ncoa.org/news/resources-for-reporters/get-the-facts/falls-prevention-facts/, adults 65 years and over are at greater risks for falls.  Every 11 minutes an older adult is treated in an emergency room for a fall.  In 2013 the cost to treat falls was over $30 billion dollars. Falls limit mobility, increases fear and may result in permanent disability or even death. Postmenopausal women are at greater risk for falling, because of osteoporosis or weakening of the bones.

If you are afraid of falling, here are five tips that help to reduce your risks:

  1. Hold on to stairs.
  2. Walk in flat shoes or sneakers
  3. Put a mat/old towel in the bathtub
  4. Do not walk on wet slippery surfaces
  5. Check your medications for side effects e.g. dizziness

 

NATIONAL FALL PREVENTION DAY: September 22, 2017

 

 

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Thoughts of Christmas Harriette Barker

Joy to the World the Lord has Come

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Christmas has always been a very special time of the year for me.  In the Caribbean certain sounds, sights, food, and events are associated with the joyful season.   One of our popular Christmas songs recall these sounds. There are the noises of Christmas.  It is not loud; more like a hum, or echo in the air. Everyone and everywhere seems to reverberate with this special Christmas sound – the shoppers, Christmas cards, Christmas trees, the stores, decorations, special smiles and exchanges of good cheer.  Everyone is joyful and happy.

Over the years, we tend to focus more on the material side of Christmas.  There is Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and daily sales.  Merchants estimate how much money they are going to make. Family and friends are disappointed at the gifts that they receive. So, amidst the frantic preparations that drain our energy and pockets, I want to share my thoughts of Christmas.

Reconnection

A Caribbean Christmas means the joy of reconnection. There are many Caribbean families living in other countries.  Each year many of them return home to celebrate Christmas with family and friends.  I enjoyed such a reconnection a few years ago, when many of our family members were together at Christmas in almost thirty years.  It was a wonderful experience.  Joy was overflowing.

Sadly, there are some families who are disconnected, losing touch over the years.  The Christmas spirit, can help us to resolve petty differences, and bring us closer together through shared memories, increasing faith and love.

Reconciliation

andy at faith: The Purpose of Christmas ~ A Time for Reconciliation

Christmas is a time to open our hearts and allow the spirit of forgiveness to enter.  We should be forgiving of each other throughout the year, but at Christmas time there should be a greater focus.  Listening to the hymns and carols of Christmas we are reminded of the real purpose for Christ coming.

Many selfish and petty issues cause discord among families.  Unfortunately, these grievances can be heightened at Christmas time, sometimes resulting in fatal events.  Sadly, there are times when death separates us before we can be reconciled.  There is the grief of loss, and the despair of unforgiveness, that dampens our spirit.

There is a story of two armies having a cease-fire at Christmas time.  The soldiers exchanged chocolate, cookies, and cigarettes with each other.  Then they sang Silent Night.  For those brief moments in time war was forgotten and memories shared.

Reconciliation is an important part of our Christmas celebrations which should continue throughout the year.    There should be a greater emphasis on the spiritual than on the material.

Rejoicing

Christmas is a time of rejoicing, of hope and love.    The story of Christ’s birth is filled with praise.  It begins with Mary, Elizabeth, Zachariah, the Shepherds, the angels, the Wise Men all giving thanks and praise for the good news.  This is a time to rid ourselves of the sadness and despair that often overwhelms our daily lives.   We should make a big effort to resist gloom and encourage hope, as this is the promise of Christmas.

The Carols, hymns, and songs of Christmas are bright and joyful.  They lift our spirits and implore us to open our hearts to the joy of the season.   We can rejoice because the angels’ song of “peace to his people on earth” is a promise that Jesus would unite all of us in love.  Praise and rejoicing should be the cornerstone of our celebrations as we join with family and friends to share the joy of Christmas.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Generosity

 If ever there was a story of Christmas generosity to lift your spirits ...
Gift giving is an integral part of our Christmas celebrations. No one wants to be Scrooge.  We want that generous part of our nature to shine.  Sometimes we go overboard, placing ourselves in debt or becoming depressed when we are unable to live up to our own expectations. However, we should remember that the most generous gift was given to us.  God loves us and this was affirmed when he sent his Son to this earth.

The traditional giving of gifts at Christmas is an acknowledgment of the generous God who pardoned us and gave us a chance to receive everlasting life.  Although gifts are the outward expression of our love to others.  It should be remembered that a loving heartand kind deeds will last longer that the brightly wrapped packages.  This Christmas and throughout the year we need to share Christ’s love generously with our fellowmen.

Renewal

Our hymn of meditation reminds us that when Christ was born he brought joy into the world. The savior that had been promised throughout the ages had finally appeared. The world had eagerly anticipated his coming. Now he is here, and things have changed. On that first Christmas, there was also a sound. It was echoed in Israel where the people had waited many years for their Savior to come.  One of our Christmas songs reminds us of the wonders of the season.  Yet for many it, it is marked by depression, loneliness, separation, grief, and despair.

This Christmas, we need to refocus.  Instead of the pointless, endless race of shopping, partying, eating and drinking, we should immerse ourselves in understanding the reason and meaning of Christmas.  By bringing the glorious message of Christ birth into our hearts and homes, we can renew and energize our faith and hope. Let this Christmas be a holy day, where we worship the new born King.

Merry Christmas from my house to yours – Harriette Barker

 

Domestic Violence and the Holidays Harriette Barker, Ph.D, RN

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Each year the decorations, shopping, bright lights, Christmas cheer, and celebrations signal the holidays.   Many people are happy, but others are emotionally, financially and socially stressed

Holidays such as Thanksgiving, Black Friday, Cyber Monday, Christmas, and New Year are challenging for persons who are experiencing financial difficulty, loss or social isolation.  Many individuals also experience the “holiday blues,” a form of depression that is more prevalent during this season. Family stress may also be high.  If relationships are fragile, family gatherings may cause increased stress levels.   Partying and excessive alcohol intake are other sources of stress for many people.

Some police departments in the nation have reported an increase in domestic violence during this current holiday season.  However, a reason article in the Huffington Post on this issue suggested the idea of increased violence at holiday time is a myth, because “violence does not take a vacation.” According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline, there is a reduction in the number of persons contacting their service during the holiday season. They suggested that concerns about keeping the family together during the holidays may be the main reason for under-reporting any violence.
Domestic violence can be physical, verbal or emotional.  It may be subtle or coercive.  The abuser may use financial, restrictive, isolation or exclusionary tactics to exercise control over their victim.  For example, not allowing her to use the car to visit family or friends.  In one situation, the abuser canceled a holiday luncheon without informing his partner.

Tips to reduce holiday abuse

  • Clear communication is the key in helping to prevent abuse.
  • Expressing your feelings calmly but firmly is important.
  • Head off situations that are escalating by leaving the room.
  • Eliminate provocative arguments
  • Take time to cool down.
  • Make a budget written in stone. No changes.
  • Monitor alcohol intake
  • Refrain from attention seeking behavior
  • Reach out to a resource when overwhelmed.

You can suddenly find yourself in an abusive situation.  It is important that you have a plan for getting help.  Family, neighbors or friends may be your first sources, but in abusive situations, it is better to contact 911.    Do not accept that your abuser is experiencing seasonal stress.   Do not use excuses to defend your abuser.

If you live in an abusive situation, holiday stress may easily exacerbate any interactions with your abuser.  There are a variety of resources in your community such as shelters, hotlines, churches, non-profit organizations and the police that will offer help.  You should keep a list of them and their contact numbers.  Domestic violence is often difficult to detect, so family and friends should be vigilant for any signs of its’ occurrence during this period.

 

National Domestic Violence Hotline  Number

24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). All calls are confidential and anonymous.

 

Positive Thinking and Aging-Harriette Barker, Ph. D, RN

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Have you ever been accused of not thinking positively about a situation?  It hurt when someone says, “you are always thinking negatively.”  Your first reaction is to defend yourself and try to convince the person that you are positive in your outlook and approach.  As we age, remaining positive may become stressful.   Many years ago, as a young staff nurse working in a geriatric facility, one of my patients said to me, “growing older is a bitch.”  At that time bouncing with youth and fairy dreams, I could not relate to her sentiment.

Positive thinking (feel good approach) is promoted as being healthy for aging hearts.  It helps to reduce the risk of inflammation and heart disease.  It can also boost your self-esteem, increase your ability to make decisions, and improve personal relationships.  Focusing on the positive and minimizing negatives thoughts and attitudes add years to life, increases resiliency, decreases stress levels and gives you greater insight.

Positive thinking is a healthy behavior that can help add years to our lives. We are encouraged to let go of negativity.  To view the older years as opportunities and challenges, that keep us engaged and in touch with the world around us.

Positive thinking from a religious perspective was healthy, and necessary for spiritual development according to the late Rev. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, and Rev. Dr. Robert Schuller.  Their ideas that focusing on the positive eliminated the negative, has been the hallmark of their books, sermons, and letters. Such thinking is very beneficial to older persons as they explore and enhance their spirituality.

However, there are some newer thoughts on positive thinking that reinforce the idea that positivity alone does not necessarily result in successful outcomes.  The Obama Presidential campaign touted the positive slogan of “Yes, we can.”  It was a message of optimism and hope that energized the nation and moved it forward.   Although his message was one of hope, in hindsight we can see the obstacles that presented every step of the way.

 Oettingen, a psychologist, agrees that positive thinking is a strategy that enables persons to take a positive approach on striving for goals.  However, she acknowledges that positive thinking alone does not eliminate obstacles that may get in the way.  Assessing these and developing a plan to overcome them in a realistic way is important if you want to achieve your goals.

 Oettingen, developed a four-step, wish, outcome, obstacles,  plan (WOOP). This strategy helps you  put your old dreams into action or develop new ones.  The steps to this program are:

Wish: Be specific

Outcome: Think about the results

Obstacles: Identify anything that may set you back

Plan:  determine where or when setbacks may occur and how to overcome them.